Stepping Off

Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take – but the moments that take our breath away…

Stepping Off

We have just had a couple of days away camping and climbed Flinter Gill above the village of Dent in the Yorkshire Dales.

The view from Flinter Gill with toposcope

At the top is a Toposcope(!) pointing to the various peaks and fells that may be seen but also bearing a poem – “Smiling Along” by Kathleen Partridge.  The poem says so much that we believe in at Stepping Off, about getting away from the frenetic 21st century pace of life… and I thought I would be able to find it on the internet, but no! So I only have the middle verse which I can read from a photo…

“A good wholesome breeze sweeps the frown from my forehead,
Here is simplicity, fragrant and free;
It is enough to be living this minute,
To feel and to hear, to think and to see”

Kathleen Partridge Poem Smiling Along

If anyone knows the poem, please let me know, or I will have to climb Flinter Gill again!

I love the summer.  Well if you can call this summer!  Though June was lovely even up here on the top of the fells in Cumbria!

Why do I love it – it is because you see all your work come to fruition. 

Today I have been picking blackcurrants and redcurrants. The bushes are heavy with berries this year.  I wanted to do something different with the fruit – I still have jam from last year.  So this year I have decided to make blackcurrant liqueur – Cassis.  It is lovely in the bottom of a glass topped up with sparkling white wine, Cava, Prosecco or if you are celebrating champagne!

It is so easy to make -

Crush the currents and fill a jar 3/4 full.  Add 150gms of sugar for each pint of liquid that the jar holds.  Fill the jar (leave a gap at the top as the liquid expands) with gin.  Let it stand until all the sugar is dissolved (I will  keep mine until Christmas). Strain the liquid through muslin and pour the juice into a bottle. Simple!

It makes for good Xmas presents or just enjoy it yourself as a treat.  It is really yummy and we convince ourselves that it goes towards one of our five a day!

How wonderful to have the time to do these things – just think I would have been sitting in commuter traffic  or still at the office at this time (20.30) if I was still living my old life!

We have been enthusiastic users of our local Freegle Group for a couple of years (previously Freecycle).  For the uninitiated it is a way of reducing landfill, giving old stuff new homes and getting free things.  It works on so many levels..!

We first used it to offer  old laminate flooring and underlay when we replaced our kitchen floor – most of it was perfectly usable at was found grateful homes as insulation and flooring for a shed.  This weekend an old beanbag chair was collected by a family who happen to be running a business at our old place of work.  Brougham Hall, where we ran the Old Smokehouse, has a number of small units including the Crafty Monkeys Pottery Studio.  Tim and Michelle ran their ceramics for a while at Wetheriggs Pottery, further south of Penrith but are now up and running at Brougham Hall – a tumble-down stately home under renovation – where children are particularly welcome to create their own masterpieces from clay – “paint a pot, throw a pot!”

One of the most valuable things we help people with at Stepping Off is getting their life into perspective and sorting out what is really important in life.

Sadly my Mother died last month and it has been quite a tough few weeks but what has really helped is that for the past few years we have lived near her and been able to see her and spend time with her.  I cannot imagine how I would have managed if I had still been living 300 miles away, putting work first and working 12 hours a day.

Getting off the treadmill and moving to live a simpler less stressful life was the best thing I have ever done and it really helped me get life into prespective.

The hardest part is working through what your own life’s priorities really are.  I guess we do not think about it too much – mainly because we are too busy ‘living’ and getting on with life.   When did you last ask yourself – ‘Who am I?’, ‘What do I stand for?’ ‘What do I want from my life?’, ‘What does success really mean to me?’

Now I find I may not have  as much money as I used to have but I do have a  more fulfilling life, I have more fun and more time for the important things.  Things like – having time for friends and family.

Since the last blog things have been fairly hectic.  Last month we had a sudden family bereavement, this month we have been to our friends’ wedding.  In between we have been working with some truly lovely people both with Stepping Off, Smoky Jo’s and on the Volunteer Business Mentoring scheme for small businesses in Cumbria that Jo is co-ordinating.

At times, working through tears has been quite surreal; at other times having to travel a long way  to a wedding seemed inconvenient!  How crazy!  One of the things we focus on with Stepping Off is sorting out priorities.  Celebrating the wedding of friends is at the top!  (And we wouldn’t have missed it for the world! A great day! The last month  has also provided a reminder that as an employee it may have been  much easier to take compassionate leave than it is when you work for yourself.  Perhaps the most bizarre thing was writing our regular upbeat and positive column for Carlisle Living magazine the day after a death in the family.

One of the reasons we wanted to escape the rat race was to have more quality time for friends and family.  Having a wedding and a funeral in such close proximity is a timely reminder of why we believe in what we are doing.

Sun breaking through the clouds...

How long are you going to put up with all those little things that drive you mad?

How many times in the past few months have you done something that you haven’t wanted to do;  gone somewhere that you have haven’t wanted to go to; or even  spent time with people that you don’t really have much in common with or whose company you don’t really enjoy?

Are there things in your life that irritate you?  How long have you tolerated the catch on the door being broken or put up with someone else’s pile of ‘stuff’ gathering dust in the corner of the room?

How many times are you going to put up adhering  with traditions – just because that is the way it has always been – like the round trip to spend time with the in-laws or having the traditional ‘family’ christmas when inside you are screaming to have for once  chrismas on your own? Ok we all have to do things that we don’t want to and many times it is because we do things for other people’s benefit. 

I am not suggesting that we become selfish, heartless or hurt other people but here are some things in our lives that we do tolerate needlessly and how much better , calmer and happier could we be if we stopped just tolerating them and made a decisive move to either do them with good grace or stop doing them all together.

Life is just too short to go on putting up with things that irritate, depress or just drive us mad.  So go on – break free and stop tolerating the intolerable!

I suspect in the south this may be old news, but here in Cumbria our first daffodils are trying to open in time for Easter.  The doors are open to let some fresh air in… but it is VERY fresh air, just above freezing! (If you are coming up to see us, bring warm clothing, especially socks!)

It is amazing how much the seasons of the year can affect you.  Some folk find relief from Seasonal Affective Disorder from light therapy.  Many feel the need for an annual dose of sunshine.

I love the warm colours of autumn, and the cosiness of a roaring fire after a misty damp day… but Spring is all about new beginnings.  Is the year going to be the same as the last?  What changes do I want to make, and when am I going to make them?!  Am I going to stick to my system for paperwork this year… or not?  Am I going to THINK about planting more daffodils or am I going to  DO IT!!?  (I have now put it on the calendar.  I will not get to next spring and wish I had planted them!)

But will we be here to see them in the spring, or will we have stepped off or moved on….

Just before the Vitality Show we got back from the most wonderful trip to Sri Lanka, land of Jo’s (and her Mother’s) birth!  She’d not been back since she was eight, I have no idea why – it is an amazing country.

Curiously we have been slightly unsettled… we upped sticks leaving jobs and home in the south ten years ago… are we ready for a move abroad..?  I think we need a Stepping Off course to check on our priorities, values, aspirations and limiting beliefs and then to plan the next steps!

Like most visitors to Sri Lanka we had a chauffeur/guide for the first part of the holiday.  His name was Jally – Hafiz Jaleel, and he absolutely made our holiday!  I promised I would link to his website so I hope you will forgive a little plug for him  He used to work for Kuoni, but  “Stepped Off” and went solo last year.  He has a good fan base on Tripadvisor – but links aren’t allowed.  He helped with all Jo’s strange requests tracing her roots – searching out  old family home and church and her Father’s office at the old brewery.  Her Father and Grandfather ran the Ceylon Brewery between them from the 1920’s to the the 1960’s and it was her Father who started brewing Lion Lager (and Lion stout)  which is still going strong today.  We raised many a glass to her old man as we negotiated the hills, beaches, kitchens and other wonders of  Sri Lanka.  Who would have thought that an island the size of Ireland would have seven – yes, SEVEN World Heritage Sites?

If you are thinking of a trip to Sri Lanka – and why wouldn’t you? – we would be delighted to talk to anyone considering asking Jally to accompany them.  We cannot recommend him too highly; but being one of the best he can get booked up months in advance – just make sure he is available before you book your flights!

May be we will see you there, running a cinnamon farm or a guest house… or downshifting courses…

We met some lovely folk at the Vitality Show… but it wasn’t One Life Live, was it?  To our past clients, thanks for coming to see us, it makes it all worthwhile. Really good to catch up with you!

Our stand was not where we hoped it would be, but it was fun to watch the amazing fitness classes nearby.  In my day it was just circuit training (which believe it or not I loved!) I wonder if I would have developed a sense of rhythm if there had been street dance and combat dance around when I was younger.  Of course if I hadn’t still been on the (slow) mend from a distal femoral osteotomy (knee op.) I would probably have joined in… so, embarrassment avoided there!

Anyway, we look forward to seeing those of you who are definitely coming up on a Stepping Off weekend; if you nearly booked but weren’t quite sure we will of course be happy to chat further – please give us a call!